I’ve heard it said that if you can do something for 30 days…. it becomes a habit.
If you can just stick to it for 30 days- you will be more likely to stick with it forever.
There are a lot of things that I want to work on at the start of the year…. being a better wife…being a better friend, Mom, Sister, Aunt, Step-Mom & Gran. And get my rear in shape and become a non-smoker are priorities…. and I realize that it’s very easy to say that they are priorities- but I question whether I am really making them priorities in my every day life.
The last thing I want to be is a woman who doesn’t walk her talk.
So my hope is that this challenge will form good every day habits for me- habits that will make me a better wife, daughter, grandaughter, mother, Gran & friend- things that have been and are very important. I’m challenging myself to a 40 day adventure of making my priorities real priorities.
I believe that these things all take effort. I believe that it’s easy to slip into the normalcy of life and I know firsthand that it’s easy to just be thankful for a hot shower at the end of the day. But that isn’t good enough for me any longer.
I want to take a hot shower AND spend some special time with God, spend some special time with my husband, and spend some special time with my family.
For the next 40 [weekdays]…. I’m going to start doing something special everyday for God, for the family, for Mike, and for myself. Something out of the ordinary. i.e.- a hot shower for me doesn’t count, but a hot shower after a great work-out does….
My prayer is that at the end of this challenge- I’ll be better all the way around, in each area. My hope is that this will form good strong habits….. that I’ll wake up continuously thinking about what I can do during the day that’s better than just ordinary, what I can do to put a smile on God’s face, to make Mike say ‘thank you’, to make my friends & family laugh. I don’t want any regrets down the road…..
Why am I sharing this here? Because I need accountability. Perhaps if I feel compelled to update my blog friends & family with progress- I’ll be more likely to stay on top of focusing on these things each day. And…. this blog is some form of record keeping for us. Hopefully at the end of the year or even in ten years- I’ll look back at this and say, “Wow. What a great experience that was.”
And I’m sharing because somedays I go to bed feeling utterly inadequate…. a total failure at measuring up to my own impossible standards. And I don’t want to keep my weaknesses a secret. I know that there are other women like me- striving to do it all, making out-of-reach goals, unforgiving of their own mistakes. Maybe, through sharing, I’ll encourage just one person to do the same….(yes Jaimie, you did inspire me) to delight in small goals each day, to try something new, to challenge myself in just one of these areas…. and if that one person should gain anything from that- how awesome that I’ve taken the time to share, right?
Who knows… maybe this little challenge will change my life… I won’t know until I try it out.
on being a better wife:
I want to make my husband proud. I want him to be thankful that I am the woman he chose to spend his life with. I hope that when someone asks him about his wife years from now- he’ll never roll his eyes and talk about what a nag I’ve become or how mundane our marriage is. I hope that he’ll still feel just as in love with me and just as attracted to me in twenty years as he does today….. as he did eight years ago. And all the while- I am not foolish enough to think that marriage isn’t constant work. I realize the importance of being dedicated and continually giving and doing for one another in special ways. I know that when we give up on everyday effort- we essentially give up on happiness – because our marriage is such a big part of our lives. Being happy in my relationship with Mike makes me so happy with everything. Waking up next to a man who adores me and settling down with him at night, happy as can be and wildly in love…. those things are an essential. He motivates & inspires me. I want him to say that I do the same for him. Here are some places I’ll be pulling ideas from in the next 40 days for inspiration (just incase you are interested in doing something special for your spouse)-
- The Love Dare– read it.…. and it’s such a challenge. a great challenge. i’m up to it and i’m excited about it.
- 31 Days Series– 31 days of ways to build your marriage
- The Husband Project– another book with great ratings: a 21 day challenge of “loving your man on purpose with a plan”
- 100 Ways to make your Marriage Rock– a cute list of 100 things to do…. just incase I’m running low on ideas or feeling completely un-inspired. Glad this cute couple came up with all of these for those days…..
- 101 Ways to tell your husband “I love you”– another long list of ideas….
My goal is that there will be no blanks at the end of this. April 30th is day 40. I want to be grateful on April 30th that I started when I did…
a reminder not to take this life he has given us for granted:
Remember this….A year from now you will wish you had started today ~ Karen Lamb ~
on getting in shape:
#1….STOP MAKING EXCUSES!
Maybe you should start your own challenge today…..